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True words:


Your Life as a Movie

A good thought about making your life count (from vi.sualize). 

Even worse than straight to video might be the cutting room floor:


I Never Finish What I Star (do yo)

I’m glad I’m not the only one who doesn’t finish what I star…


A Little Inspiration

I have seen this previously, but just stumbled upon it again this morning.  I needed it today.  Hopefully, it will help you too.

A Little Inspiration

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, It is between you and God;
It never was between you and them anyway.

Author Unknown

Success Shouldn’t be Elusive

How do you define success?  Read through this list, I think it’s a pretty good start (and it’s never too late to make adjustments to previous choices):


A Day in the Life of a Procrastinator

I was going to post this earlier, but decided to do other stuff first.  After a bit of diddle daddle, I couldn’t decide whether to linger or lollygag, so I moseyed back into the house (I’d forgotten how to sashay).  At any rate, here (finally) is – How to Wander through Life, better known as A Day in the Life of a Procrastinator (brought to you by (I might goof off later, if I have time).


Oh! The Places You’ll Go – by Dr. Seuss

Oh!  The Places You’ll Go is the last book written by Dr. Seuss and it just happens to be one of my favorite books.  Dr. Seuss was brilliant!  I often read this at graduation when I was a principal – it makes a great gift.

Here is some background from Suite 101 dot com (followed by the text of the book):

In Oh! The Places You’ll Go, Dr. Seuss writes about the ups and downs of life.

Dr Seuss writes about the beginning…
Oh! The Places You’ll Go starts with a boy (sorry girls, it’s one of those times you just have to lump yourselves in with the guys). Anyway, this boy is starting off on his journey to Great Places. He’s “off and away!” He’s got brains and feet, and can go in any direction he chooses. He’s fresh and excited about his latest adventure, and he knows nothing will stop him.

Dr Seuss writes about decisions
The boy can choose whether or not to go down certain streets. Dr. Seuss stresses how smart and capable the boy is. And we all are, even us girls (but sometimes we ignore our gut feelings). Oh The Places You’ll Go is about making good decisions.

Dr Seuss writes about how good things happen!
In Oh The Places You’ll Go, we’re gutsy and brainy — and amazing things happen! Dr Seuss advises the boy to go along with the things – and he’ll start happening too! He’ll soar to high heights and see some great sights, and he’ll be at the top of his class. Dr Suess is optimistic.

Dr Seuss writes about how bad things happen too
The boy gets left in a lurch, while his peers soar on. He comes down with a bump, and gets into a slump. And, as Dr. Seuss says in Oh The Places You’ll Go, “Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.” Streets are dark and unmarked. Choices are confusing and possibly dangerous. Confusion can set in and so can impulsive decisions and even some hysteria too!

Dr Seuss writes about waiting
Dr Suess says that the waiting place isn’t fun for anyone in Oh The Places You’ll Go. Here, people wait for other people, the weekend, the phone to ring, money, possessions, anything, everything – even a second chance.

Dr Seuss writes about escaping to bright places!
The boy doesn’t wait in Oh The Places You’ll Go – waiting isn’t for him! He finds the “bright places where Boom Bands are playing” and he starts to ride high. He’s excited again, and ready to win big time on tv with everyone watching. He’s a star!

Dr Seuss writes about the lonely game
But then he gets all alone, whether he likes it or not, in Oh The Places You’ll Go. Dr Seuss knows that sometimes we all play lonely games no matter who we are. When we’re alone there’s a good chance we’ll get scared out of our pants.

Dr Seuss writes about resiliency
The boy moves forward through foul weather, prowling enemies, howling Hakken-Kraks, frightening creeks, and leaky sneakers. He hikes upward and faces his problems! He’ll “get mixed up with many strange birds” as he goes; Dr Seuss advises him to step with great care and great tact.

Dr Seuss writes about the ups and downs of life
But it’s 98¾% guaranteed that the boy will succeed! The odds are in his favor – he will move mountains. In Oh the Places You’ll Go Dr. Seuss advises him to get on his way, whether his name is “Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O’Shea” (some of those could be girls’ names!).

Oh! The Places You’ll Go!
by Dr. Seuss

Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go.

You’ll look up and down streets. Look’em over with care. About some you will say, “I don’t choose to go there.” With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet, you’re too smart to go down a not-so-good street.

And you may not find any you’ll want to go down. In that case, of course, you’ll head straight out of town. It’s opener there in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen and frequently do to people as brainy and footsy as you.

And when things start to happen, don’t worry. Don’t stew. Just go right along. You’ll start happening too.

Oh! The Places You’ll Go!

You’ll be on your way up!
You’ll be seeing great sights!
You’ll join the high fliers who soar to high heights.

You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have the speed. You’ll pass the whole gang and you’ll soon take the lead. Wherever you fly, you’ll be best of the best. Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don’t.
Because, sometimes, you won’t.

I’m sorry to say so but, sadly, it’s true that Bang-ups and Hang-ups can happen to you.

You can get all hung up in a prickle-ly perch. And your gang will fly on. You’ll be left in a Lurch.

You’ll come down from the Lurch with an unpleasant bump. And the chances are, then, that you’ll be in a Slump.

And when you’re in a Slump, you’re not in for much fun. Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked. Some windows are lighted. But mostly they’re darked. A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin! Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in? How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And if you go in, should you turn left or right…or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite? Or go around back and sneak in from behind? Simple it’s not, I’m afraid you will find, for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused that you’ll start in to race down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space, headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.

The Waiting Place…for people just waiting.

Waiting for a train to go or a bus to come, or a plane to go or the mail to come, or the rain to go or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow or waiting around for a Yes or No or waiting for their hair to grow. Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kite or waiting around for Friday night or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake or a pot to boil, or a Better Break or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants or a wig with curls, or Another Chance. Everyone is just waiting.

No! That’s not for you!
Somehow you’ll escape all that waiting and staying. You’ll find the bright places where Boom Bands are playing. With banner flip-flapping, once more you’ll ride high! Ready for anything under the sky. Ready because you’re that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won. And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all. Fame! You’ll be famous as famous can be, with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don’t. Because, sometimes, they won’t.

I’m afraid that some times you’ll play lonely games too. Games you can’t win ‘cause you’ll play against you.

All Alone!
Whether you like it or not, Alone will be something you’ll be quite a lot.

And when you’re alone, there’s a very good chance you’ll meet things that scare you right out of your pants. There are some, down the road between hither and yon, that can scare you so much you won’t want to go on.

But on you will go though the weather be foul. On you will go though your enemies prowl. On you will go though the Hakken-Kraks howl. Onward up many a frightening creek, though your arms may get sore and your sneakers may leak. On and on you will hike. And I know you’ll hike far and face up to your problems whatever they are.

You’ll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You’ll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and ¾ percent guaranteed.)

Kid, you’ll move mountains!
So…be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray or Mordecai Ale Van Allen O’Shea, you’re off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So…get on your way!


I was tagged by Amber (Sanity Found also tagged the entire universe) with the curse list of three:

3 Joys

  1. My Family
  2. A Great Book
  3. A Great Meal

3 Fears (…or maybe questions)

  1. What kind of world are my kids inheriting?
  2. Am I inadvertently being offensive?
  3. Why is that car that is coming at me from the other direction… in my lane?

3 Goals

  1. Write another book
  2. Present at two conferences a year
  3. Get the yard cleaned up

3 Current Obsessions

  1. Books on CD
  2. Fantasy Baseball (I’m in first place in two leagues and third in another).
  3. This Blog

3 Random/Surprising Facts

  1. My wife and I waited almost 14 years after getting married to have kids.
  2. We thought I’d be more mature by then.
  3. We were wrong.

A Principal – Life in a Shark Tank

I haven’t written about my bucket list lately.

One series of goals that I set at 30 was to earn a teaching credential, a master’s degree and a doctorate.  So, at 33, I went back to school to begin work on my teaching credential.  I then reentered the workforce as a novice – again (this was my third career).

As a classroom teacher, one of my goals every day was to be the bright spot in each student’s day.  I thought if I could help 30 kids enjoy school, maybe they would enjoy learning.  The problem was that when I was busy earning my teaching credential, I thought I would be a fourth grade teacher.  Instead I spent my entire teaching career at middle schools.  So, my influence on 30 students extended to 180.

After several years of teaching, I began to think that maybe I could extend a positive influence to an entire school of students (or from 180 to 1,000).  So, I earned my administrative credential and M.A. and was promptly asked to begin working as a principal at an elementary school.  As I spent the summer preparing to take the helm of a school of about 500 students, I decided that I was going to learn each student’s name by October (I did) – it really wasn’t that hard.  We had a great time together and I believe we made great strides – in fact I just ran into one of those students and his parents this past week who still remembered me (he was a kindergartner my last year at the elementary school and is now in eighth grade) and they made some positive comments about my knowing all the kids at the school.

I had a wonderful time with elementary students, but eventually moved back to working with middle school students and again learned every student’s name (about 1,500 this time).

Middle school is a nice euphemism for shark tank.  Kids are going through so much as middle schoolers and we (adults) tend to marginalize the emotional, physical, social, intellectual, and moral changes they are experiencing (and ages 11-14 tend to be at their lowest point of self-esteem).  As a result, many (most) kids tend to pick on others in order to feel better about themselves (I’m generalizing due to time constraints).  I tried to make each day bearable for them and did whatever I could to make them feel that they had at least one advocate.  However, if they needed to be disciplined, they were (we expelled about 20 kids each year).

My favorite story to hate about middle school happened one year on the first day of school.  I watched a new sixth grader walk onto campus with his father.  The kid was wearing a sweater vest, tie, dress slacks, and dress shoes (he looked pretty sharp) and was holding hands with his father as he entered campus.  My first thought was “well, you don’t see that anymore, how nice.”  My second thought was, “he’s dead” (socially).  Sure enough, he only lasted two more days before checking out and going to a private school.

There were many great stories as well.  Like the students who earned a place in space camp in Huntsville, Alabama, or the students who created a welcome program to help assimilate new students into the school, or the students who went on to earn scholarships to universities or military institutions, or just the great kids who would come back to volunteer on their days off after moving on to high school. 

But the one student who couldn’t be himself – couldn’t just be a kid – still haunts me.

Anyway, I eventually moved on to become a principal of a high school (with some of my middle school kids) and now a university (educating teachers, counselors, and principals), always with the goal of making school more enjoyable for students, with the hope that they will enjoy learning.  Only now, instead of a goal to be the bright spot in the lives of 100 or 1,000 students, my goal is to create many bright spots who will enter classrooms and school all across Southern California, becoming a positive influence on (literally) millions.

Welcome to middle school!

Welcome to middle school!

New (School) Year’s Resolutions

I came across this at Where’s The Sun, who took the idea from Pass the Torch, and I thought about a few school-year resolutions that I should will try do:


  • Get outside more (I commute 2 1/2 hours each day).
  • Spend less time at the computer in the early evenings.


  • Stop drinking sodas (a newer habit, must stop) and drink more water.
  • Get back on the (excercise) bike.


  • Become more accepting of other people’s personality quirks (not that I’m intolerant – on the surface, I just get annoyed by some quirks, then avoid people who annoy me – and it is my loss).
  • Expand my friendships.


  • Do more fun stuff with my family on weekends.
  • Play more games in the evenings (my kids love board games).


  • Write more.
  • Increase conference presentations.

Let’s see how I do…

NOTE: I published this earlier this morning, but didn’t like the format and couldn’t figure out how to fix it – so being the OCD person I strive to be, I rewrote it.